Reminiscent of Liz Curtis Higgs, Bad Girls of the Bible: And What We Can Learn from Them, Bad Dads of the Bible: 8 Mistakes Every Good Dad Can Avoid by Roland C. Warren warns fathers not to mirror the eight mistakes of fathers in the Bible.
Roland C. Warren is the founder of Washington D.C.’s National Fatherhood Initiative, a company that seeks to promote good fatherhood. I reviewed this book from the perspective of a daughter and found no fault in his logic. I agreed with everything he said. In fact, I would expand on Bad Dad Mistake #4: “He made it difficult for his children to honor him.” The person of interest here is Saul of the Old Testament.
How many times have people quoted, “Honor thy father and mother,” from the Ten Commandments? It’s a phrase that unfortunately has been linked to trauma in my life. In this chapter, Bad Dads of the Bible spoke about Bernie Madoff and his children. Madoff began his business in 1961. He brought his sons up in the business. Eventually, Madoff made some bad choices and he couldn’t undo them. His children suffered.
Mark Madoff attempted to find a job afterwards, but his name was linked to his dad’s corruption though Mark was not involved. He ended up committing suicide. The remaining son, Andy, struggled to deal with it and has spoken since about how he and his brother were “human shields” to his father’s illegal activities.
A name means everything, and it’s hard for a child to “honor” a parent when the parent has abused that right. Saul, too, made it difficult for his son to honor him. The mistakes Bad Dads spoke about on page 86 were:
- Made unwise decisions and treated others harshly.
- Allowed fear of man to influence him.
- Lied to his children and used them in a dishonorable way.
Bad Dads of the Bible, from a daughter who watched her parent’s divorce and endured so much, is a great guide for fathers to read. Father’s should be honored, but due to so much dysfunction, even Father’s Day came under fire recently when single moms and the rest demanded recognition, too.
On Father’s Day, I believe we should recognize good fathers–father’s who try. Older father’s should also walk alongside new fathers and mentor them. This culture doesn’t treat fathers well and lumps good fathers in with the bad ones. Single moms should get recognition, too–on another day–but on Father’s Day, let’s remember that not all fathers are disappointments. Even more so, let’s remember our Heavenly Father which loves far deeper and more perfect than a human father.
I gave this book five stars.
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