How to be a Safe Place

When there are so many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his lips is wise.  – Proverbs 10:19

Pain is like a violent force trapped in a small space. It can’t help but burst out in short spurts, like gun fire. It needs to have a safe place to spew its poison out so the bearer can let it go and begin healing, but what defines a safe place?

A safe place is confidential, surrounded by love, accountability, and wise council; preferably a place in the company of others experienced in the situation–people who have gone through it, too, but a long time ago. People in pain aren’t always careful, and we, as the body of Christ, should encircle them, love them, and share their burden. At times, we need to be tough, or sometimes just listen. Always pray for them and be flexible with your time, because, whether it’s a phone call or a cup of coffee, your friend needs to release her pain and know she can trust you to keep it close.


How have you been a friend to someone in pain? What does being a friend look like?