Theology can be talked about on Sundays, recorded at conferences – but it’s lived in kitchens or it dies at tables. Doctrine in the kitchen is doctrine in real life. Don’t belittle everyday pots and pans — they are the means to carry theology into the everyday of our lives. The mother in the kitchen is the one who can actually give life to the words of the speaker on the platform. Platform words are dead words – until brave people live them out in the kitchen. – Ann Voskamp, When You’re Missing Feeling Loved: How to Practice The Presence of God
“The mother in the kitchen is the one who can actually give life to the words of the speaker on the platform,” says Ann. I read this from my phone and sigh.
Courage is practiced in the kitchen at family gatherings when discussions range from what shoes were bought at the mall to politics and religion. The kitchen conversation is where family has power over culture. If we don’t have these conversations, the sermon on Sunday is forgotten, like the shoes in my back closet next to the dust bunnies. If we don’t read the Bible, pray together, or discuss the things that matter no matter how controversial, the culture will make inroads into our children’s minds.
And really, the war is over the minds and spirits of our children. A culture isn’t changed through force or laws, but through the slow integration of teachings via public schools, preschools, and their friends who may not believe in God or in balancing a budget.
When I taught at a preschool, the curriculum taught children younger than five years old to notice a person’s color in a very politically correct way. A person’s color shouldn’t be the first thing we notice. A person’s character should matter, and that’s where those kitchen conversations are invaluable.
Let’s talk about Sunday’s sermon as a family.
Let’s talk about the country.
Let’s have a discussion.
Culture only has as much power as our families allow. We can take back our children’s mind one tweet, status, and kitchen table discussion at a time. So wipe the dust off of your kitchenaide and make some chocolate chip cookies one Sunday afternoon. Gather your family around the kitchen and talk for real.